We have all heard the hype, working moms vs. stay at home moms. Is there some truth to this battle? Maybe...I for one think this is a disagreement that is publicized to once again pit women against eachother. Do some working moms look down on stay at home moms because they "don't contribute to the household income"? Absolutely. Do some stay at home moms judge working moms for "letting daycare raise their kids"? Definitely. While being any kind of mom is the best, both staying home and working can suck.....
Stay At Home: While at home with 3 kids, you find herself in the middle of 3 consecutive snow days. The house looks like there was a natural disaster...inside. Whining has become the official language and you have wondered more than once about how much your darlings would fetch on Ebay. Your husband comes home, looks around in disbelief and asks what you have done all day?!?
At Work: Dashing around in the morning with one heel on while your toddler screams for another Dora and refuses to eat breakfast. Meanwhile your Blackberry is already ringing and the demanding emails have started coming in at 7:00 a.m. While dropping baby off, she cries and begs you not to "weave" her at "skwool". Sunglasses are promptly placed over welling eyes while you return calls on the way in. You race out of a meeting, which you managed to botch to pick up a kid that doesn't want to go home.
At the end of the day, we all have the same goal...to be the best mom we can. Some women have to work, some choose to and both are fine. Some do everything they can to stay home and go without to do so, and that's fine. Not trying to be preachy but it's in all of our best interest to keep judgement away and think of the difficulties of both choices. Because they are choices, not "sides".
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Random musings of the overworked mommy brain...
Short post this evening as my goal of writing at least twice a week is becoming almost laughable with life's interruptions. As my brain becomes overloaded lately, just a few random thoughts I had today.
1. Smart cars are kind of stupid- not to offend anyone but what is so smart about a car that can't hold more than one grocery bag and looks like a tennis shoe?
2. Karma is a bitch... latest example...while walking into a grocery store today I immediately put my phone to my ear to carry on a fascinating pretend conversation in order to avoid the boy scouts posted at the front door. No less than 10 minutes later I run into a co-worker while decked out in my best faded yoga pants, over sized Jets t-shirt and flip flops, face devoid of even a hint of makeup. In my defense, I think they were selling coupons or some crap...
3. It's tricky navigating play date etiquette and a little nerve wracking when meeting up with a new playmate's mom. Luckily I have had some great experiences recently. You know you have met a friend when she doesn't even flinch when your child decides it's a good idea to don her playmate's clean underwear and then proceeds to have an accident in said underwear . Typically a "please floor swallow me up" kind of moment.
4. It's o.k to have mom envy...envy those with more kids, less kids, a hot husband, in better shape, way better hair or the ability to do it all seamlessly. These things are all o.k as long as you can look at yourself at the end of the day and know that you are a kickass mom that, with a little hair brushing and some eyeliner and sleep, are a force to be reckoned with. :)
1. Smart cars are kind of stupid- not to offend anyone but what is so smart about a car that can't hold more than one grocery bag and looks like a tennis shoe?
2. Karma is a bitch... latest example...while walking into a grocery store today I immediately put my phone to my ear to carry on a fascinating pretend conversation in order to avoid the boy scouts posted at the front door. No less than 10 minutes later I run into a co-worker while decked out in my best faded yoga pants, over sized Jets t-shirt and flip flops, face devoid of even a hint of makeup. In my defense, I think they were selling coupons or some crap...
3. It's tricky navigating play date etiquette and a little nerve wracking when meeting up with a new playmate's mom. Luckily I have had some great experiences recently. You know you have met a friend when she doesn't even flinch when your child decides it's a good idea to don her playmate's clean underwear and then proceeds to have an accident in said underwear . Typically a "please floor swallow me up" kind of moment.
4. It's o.k to have mom envy...envy those with more kids, less kids, a hot husband, in better shape, way better hair or the ability to do it all seamlessly. These things are all o.k as long as you can look at yourself at the end of the day and know that you are a kickass mom that, with a little hair brushing and some eyeliner and sleep, are a force to be reckoned with. :)
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